Alexander Theodore Grover
Born: February 12, 1860 Sheldon Township, Houston County, State of Minnesota
Died: January 18, 1940 Moland Township, Clay County, Minnesota
Aleck was born in Tarje and Geline's new home in the Looney Valley, Houston County on February 12, 1860. His name is recorded as "Aliksander" in Tarje's Bible. Some sources state that "Aslak" was often anglicized to "Alexander" and "Torgier/Tarje" to "Theodore" so it is possible Aleck was named for his father and grandfather. He was 14 when the family moved to Clay County.
Tarje's niece and nephews joined the family after their parents' deaths in Norway. Aslak Thomas was one of Aleck's best friends. The two of them enjoyed a good time and would not back down from a confrontation. Aslak's quickness and Aleck's size and strength made them fearsome opponents. "They didn't start fights, but they sure could finish them!"
It was the connection to the Thomases that first brought Aleck into contact with Pauline Kroshus, whose brother owned a farm near Perley, Minnesota. They were the first couple to be married in the original Concordia (Our Saviour's) church building, on November 20, 1884. Their first farm was a 160 acre tree claim east of Perley. After Ed's death, Aleck returned to Moland township, building his farm from the land inherited from Ed's estate.Aleck was the "big brother" of the family, and stories abound of his exercising his authority to protect or assure the discipline of his younger siblings well into their adulthoods.
Pauline died the following year.
Aleck and Pauline had a stormy but enduring marriage. Pauline was intelligent and enjoyed teaching. (She was perhaps a bit frustrated by the limitations her gender placed upon her in those times. ) Her housekeeping was always the subject of neighborhood comment - she was often up at midnight washing floors or baking bread. Aleck, an early riser, made breakfast for the household while Pauline "slept in" (until as late as 7 AM!).
Aleck, his brothers Ed, Chris and cousin Aslak all spent a few winters logging in Northern Minnesota. Aleck at one point worked as a logger nearly year-round while Pauline returned to teaching. This 3-5 year separation was viewed by the community as a sure sign of marital troubles. A variety of theories as to the cause of the rift, some silly and others hurtful, were discussed. It may simply have been that they were two stubborn, independent people who ran their lives with only passing regard for what people would think.
Aleck turned the farming operation over to his son Clarence. Financial difficulties led to the loss of the farm, and Aleck lived for several years in the parsonage of Concordia Church. While living there, he had a stroke and was an invalid for the last 5 years of his life. A. T. died, at home in his bed with Pauline at his side, at 9 PM on January 18, 1940. He was less than a month away from his 80th birthday.
They are buried in Concordia Lutheran Church Cemetery, rural Glyndon.
Alex was in his glory tending the threshing machine during harvest. Click the link above to view a photo that captures him on the job in about 1920 with grease on his shirtsleeves and "that look" on his face.
More about Aleck & Pauline's Wedding
Pauline Kroshus and her family
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